The Concealed Underworld of Sibling Abuse.
In Hiding in Plain Sight, a U.S. Air Force veteran comes home to a family very different and unrecognizable than the one he left behind more than twenty years ago. He quickly learns that the long-duration battle he’s about to fight on the home front will take every ounce of his strength…a battle as formidable and horrifying as one could ever conceive imaginable.
A true story.
Hiding in Plain Sight
—— Author: Sean Torean McFadden
Sean Torean McFadden was a happy boy in childhood and a happy man through much of his adulthood. His departure from home at the age of seventeen led to a rewarding military career that was his greatest success, but upon his return home in his early forties, he would find a different type of enemy than those he worked so hard to suppress in uniform for more than two decades.
This enemy was close, personal, and wore a mask; hidden yet unhidden, known yet unknown, present yet distant. His quest for survival would take him on a long, treacherous and heartbreaking journey in emotional and psychological warfare—where the fight for survival of his mind, his spirit, and the love of one person put him on a divergent, unscrupulous battlefield—one bred in the depths of hell.
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All families are imperfect, yet within the expected range of imperfection you may believe that your family is particularly afflicted with a profound dysfunction and that this dysfunction is so severe as to inhibit the happiness and success that every person within that family unit deserves.
Sibling abuse is one of the more controversial areas of domestic violence. Society places great emphasis upon sibling relationships exemplified by the use of terms such as “brotherly and sisterly love” to reflect strong attachments of love and caring, but not all sibling relationships are healthy and well-adjusted. Several studies indicate that sibling abuse occurs in more than sixty percent of families, crossing all racial and socioeconomic lines, making it a common form of domestic violence and an area in need of greater research. For many years, very little research was conducted into the dynamics of sibling abuse, and what researchers do know comes from clinical studies. Parents often ignore it, researchers do not study it in great detail, and many therapists find it a normal element of growing up. However, there is an increasing focus on the fact that, in less than a majority of cases, sibling wars develop into a form of repeated and inescapable abuse.
One study determined that, as siblings grow older, their abuse decreases. The author can personally and unequivocally state that this is not always the case. It is his greatest hope that, should any aspects of his life within these pages sound familiar to you from your own experiences, you will learn from his experiences, be nourished and strengthened by them, and become strong enough to prevail in healing with truth and a greater sense of self.
About the author
Sean T McFadden
Sean Torean McFadden gains his credibility and trust by graduating Magna Cum Laude from the University of Family Emotional and Psychological Survival. Whether or not you lived in the environment of an extremely toxic family, the journey he shares will benefit you in ways you can’t begin to imagine.
Strap yourself in and hang on for a ride you won’t forget any time soon, but take comfort in knowing Sean is in the driver’s seat; weaving you in and out of the gates of Hell with military precision…again and again. One word of caution, Sean says: “Stay intimately connected to yourself; wholly grounded in truth and reality—they are the only survival tools you’ll have, and you’re going to need them”.
Sean is a retired US Air Force senior non-commissioned officer who served in the Vietnam-era and Persian Gulf-era. He devoted nearly fifty years of his life in and out of military uniform to the defense and safety of the United States, its citizens, and worldwide friends. He lives in southern New Jersey and has a son, two grandchildren and a wonderful significant other of ten years. In his free time, he’s an avid reader with an unquenchable thirst for knowledge. He loves lake fishing, smooth jazz, enjoys hearty comedy, nature, and long and peaceful drives to nowhere.
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Authored by a Warrior! This is an arduous journey of the human spirit and unwavering courage in the face of heartbreaking adversity and definitely earns my five-stars!! Each page rings of authenticity and guides us to a love story borne from the ashes of deep, personal tragedy. Peppered along the way are profound quotes that compel focused thought and demand honest self-reflection. My gratitude to the author for sharing a treasure trove of eye opening resources and research findings on abuser strategies and tactics…and in plain English offers a powerful knowledge bank on the many nefarious tools in our abuser’s toolbox.
– Scott on the West Side
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Heartbreaking yet insightful. When you read something like this, you realize you are not alone. Well written.
– DC from TN
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Ex-Air Force with two decades in uniform, Sean Torean McFadden must be a tough guy. However, writing as searingly intimate and painful a memoir as “Hiding in Plain Sight” could be the bravest thing he’s ever done. Though not written with the tight cohesion of a professional author, McFadden’s personal account of family abuse is eye-opening and important.
Scars endured as children don’t always fade in adulthood and McFadden’s brutally honest analysis of his own suffering should serve as an affirmation to others that it’s never too late to seek help. There’s no shame in struggling to overcome the damage caused by heartbreaking violence; and though there are surely many ways to heal, because of work like McFadden’s one need not do it alone.
I was impressed that Mr. McFadden personally mailed this giveaway to me which indicated his dedication to spreading the word about sibling abuse. After serving as a CASA volunteer for many years, I realize how many children, even as adults, suffer from emotional and/or physical abuse from parents that are caught in the abuse “cycle”. Sean has done his due diligence by researching these behaviors and seeking therapy for himself. Sometimes the events were hard to follow and a little confusing.
Well written, I had to read this in short stints, I believe it was due to the type of material, hard to read what was happening in this author’s life. I enjoyed the references to the materials he researched, and appreciated his multiple attempts to communicate with his siblings even though I knew “leopards don’t change their spots”.
– Beth Alfieri
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